Abstinence: It Is Possible
Remember
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Abstinence means that you are not having any type of sexual
contact.
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Abstinence is the best protection against STIs and pregnancy.
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You should never feel pressured into having sex.
More and more teenagers are choosing abstinence
because they want to be 100% sure of avoiding STIs (sexually transmitted
infections) and pregnancy. Even teens who have had sex before
are making a commitment to be abstinent. Read on to find out more about how to
deal with the pressure of having sex, whether it's still possible to get STIs,
and why many teens are choosing abstinence over sex.
What exactly is abstinence anyway?
Abstinence means that you are not having sexual
intercourse. Sexual intercourse means that you are having "sex" with
a partner. Sex can be vaginal, oral or anal. So if someone is abstinent, it
means they are not having sexual relations with anyone.
Why are teens choosing to be
abstinent?
Many teens choose abstinence because they know that
it is the best protection against STIs, and it is 100% effective in preventing
pregnancy. Others choose abstinence because of religious beliefs or because of
their own values.
Do most teens who have had sex wish
they waited?
Yes. In fact, 3 out of 4 girls who have had sex wish
they had waited longer before having sexual intercourse.
What should I say if I feel
pressured to have sex?
A good relationship is about good communication.
Talk to the person you're dating and be clear about your values and what you
really want. Don't be shy about what you don't feel comfortable doing. The fact
is you don't really need to tell anyone why you don't want to have sex. It's
good to be honest with the person you are dating early on that you plan to be
abstinent. This way there will be no expectations and you both can avoid
situations that could make abstinence difficult, such as going to a party where
there's alcohol or being alone in an empty house.
My partner keeps telling me "If
you love me, you'd have sex with me."
Don't be fooled by this line! Loving someone
doesn't just give them permission for sex. Changing your mind and having sex
when you really don't want to is letting yourself down, and it doesn't
guarantee that your partner will stay with you either. In the long run, if
someone wants to break up with you just because you won't have sex, they really
are not worth it.
How can I talk to my parents about
sex?
You may think that your parents would be last on
your list of people that you would talk to about sex but remember they were
teenagers once too and probably faced a lot of similar issues that you are
facing now. In fact, your values are based on your parent's attitude about
things. Talking to a parent may help you understand your feelings. You might
want to start a conversation with your parent(s) about peer pressure. You could
mention that you think there's a lot of pressure on teens to have sex. Then you
might ask them their feelings about sex and teens. Parents know that growing up
isn't easy. If given the chance, parents can be very helpful and supportive.
The important thing to remember is to talk about your feelings with an adult or
friend you feel comfortable with—someone
you can trust.
Is it possible to get and STI or
become pregnant without vaginal intercourse?
You can get an STI with vaginal, anal, or oral sex.
You should also know that some STIs (such as HPV)
are spread by close skin-to-skin contact of the genital area. Yes, it is
possible to get pregnant without having sexual intercourse if a male ejaculates
(sperm comes out of the penis) close to your vagina.
Are there any other risks involved
with having sex?
Yes. Besides running the risk of getting an STI or
becoming pregnant, having sex when you're not ready can cause you to feel bad
about yourself and also make you question your relationship.
How will I be able to tell if I'm
ready to have sex?
Knowing when you are ready to have sex can be
tricky because your body may feel like you are ready. You may feel very
romantic with your partner and have the urge to have sex. This is perfectly
normal but you should also listen to your thoughts and beliefs to help you
decide when the time is right. If you're nervous or not sure, wait until you
can make a choice that you are sure of. Remind yourself that abstinence is the
only 100% way to avoid pregnancy and STIs. One thing for sure to remember is:
"you should never feel pressured or pushed into having sex".
Most teens will agree that saying “no” to sex can be hard, but having
sex is a serious decision that has
consequences. You can make a choice to say “no” to sex and still be
close with your partner. When you choose to be abstinent, it means you want to
wait to have sex until the time is right for you, and that you're ready for the
commitment of using condoms and birth control. Talking with someone you trust
will help you follow your feelings and values and stick to your decision.
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